It can be really hard to let go of someone you love who’s toxic for you. But what should you do when you miss them and are grieving their absence? Here’s what to do when you miss a toxic person.
This morning I woke up with grief and heaviness over a toxic person that I’m no longer in contact with.
My dad.
Even though he’s not in my life right now, I still love him and appreciate parts of the relationship we had in the past.
So, I decided to make this post to help me process my feelings about it.
If you have someone toxic in your life that you miss sometimes, here’s what you can do.
#1: Feel Your Emotions
First of all, allow yourself to feel anything and everything that comes up.
Longing. Grief. Sadness. Anger. Hurt.
Let it flow without attaching to it or judging yourself for it.
One thing that helps me is to put on a few sad songs and cry it out.
Breathe.
However you want to do it, allow any and all of your feelings to flow through you.
#2: Turn It Into Beauty
Now, find a way to process those emotions by taking some type of action.
Write it out, talk about it with someone you trust, create art or go exercise.
Let all the longing for that person flow through you by turning into something beautiful for yourself, something that will benefit you.
#3: Think of the Good
Next, try to focus on the good you experienced with them.
Even if it was a toxic relationship, try to think of just one good thing you got from it.
Once my dad and I built a snow fort all day instead of taking me to pre-school. I love that memory and I’m grateful for it.
Then, send that gratitude out into the universe. Let it go.
#4: Move Forward
Finally, it’s important to put your best food forward.
Move forward, try not to dwell. It’s so important for your own wellbeing to move forward. Emotions will pass. The light will come back. So, don’t just sit in your thoughts and emotions.
Move on with your day, however you can. Remember, you left them behind for a reason.
Conclusion
It can be really hard when you miss someone who just isn’t good for you. But if you can move through it and take extra care of yourself, it’ll all be ok.
