Take It From a Dry Texter: Short Messages Don’t Mean Someone Isn’t Interested (2024)

FAQs

Does dry texting mean they're not interested? ›

Your guy might prefer to text a bit less, or he might not like texting at all. It's worth checking in with his comfort levels and preferences. Some guys send dry texts because they aren't fans of texting, so keep in mind a dry text doesn't immediately mean that your guy doesn't like you.

If they're taking a long time to reply and when they do, it's thoughtless, short, or uninspiring, they may not be into you. If they're doing this and they're not being proactive about planning dates, that's probably a bad sign.

However, dry texting doesn't necessarily mean the end of your relationship/talking stage/situationship, nor does it equal a red flag…

Close Settings. As a phrase, “dry texting” is relatively recent in the grand scheme of things. It refers to people who reply with one word, or don't carry the conversation and just say things like “lmao” and “wyd” until the receiver wants to tear their hair out in frustration or boredom.

While occasional delays are normal, consistently taking an unusually long time to reply can be a sign that they are losing interest.

People often send mixed signals, it can be difficult to know whether they are interested in you or not. In general, interested folks are more likely to keep conversations going, pay attention, get close, and touch. In contrast, disinterested individuals end conversations, ignore you, move away, and avoid touching.

Longer messages, compliments, personal stories, and lots of questions mean he's looking to continue the conversation while shorter messages might mean he's not interested. Also, look at how consistently he responds quickly. If he responds to your messages quickly all the time, it's a great sign he's interested.

They are probably doing it for one of three reasons: he isn't actually interested in you. he is a man of few words and doesn't talk much. Or he's busy and the short replies are just the result of that.

Why do girls reply to a short message? ›

Well, it's possible this girl's replying quickly because she's not overthinking it, because she's just not that into you. She's respectful. She might just consider it basic kindness to respond in a timely fashion to a text. Many people view it as rude to leave a conversation hanging too long.

"What are you up to lately?" Go old school with this tried and true classic. It might seem basic, but people don't always get much of a chance to talk about themselves. Let the other person know you're genuinely interested in what they have going on, and hopefully they'll feel comfortable opening up.

If you're dealing with being ghosted, it's completely normal to feel hurt. It can be very confusing when someone suddenly cuts off contact. You might be tempted to keep reaching out, but it's usually best to move on in this situation.

Try asking more open-ended questions

For example, instead of asking if they had a good vacation, ask them what the highlight of it was. If someone really isn't feeling talkative they can still respond to the most thought-provoking question with a few words, but at least you gave them the opportunity to say more.

The first step in stopping dry texting is figuring out for what reason the convo is going dry. Your crush may not be a huge texter or they may be super busy at work. If you're really interested in them, check in with them about the texting lull.

If the conversation has stalled, try dropping in something you've always liked about them. Even a casual compliment might encourage them to open up to you a little more. For instance, you might share something you really appreciate about them by saying something like, "You always make me feel better when I'm down.