How to Keep Your Teens on Task With Chore Charts (2024)

Whether it's your teen's turn to empty the dishwasher or you want her to clean the garage, getting your teen to do chores can be a daunting task. One of the best ways to get your teen motivated to do chores is by using a chore chart.

Many chore charts on the market are geared toward younger children. And you certainly don't want your 15-year-old to think she's being treated like a baby​— that could backfire and cause her to become less responsible.Create your own teenage-approved chore chart. By doing so, you'll be giving your teen more responsibility and you'll spend less time battling over chores.

Here are a few different types of chore charts that can be effective with teens:

Daily Chore Chart

Create a list of all the chores you expect your teen to complete each day. Pick up his room, clean the bathroom, and clear the table, might be a few things on the list.

Then, across the top of the page, create a column for each day of the week. Tell him to check off each chore when it's complete. Once his chores are done for the day, allow him to have privileges, like time on his electronics.

You don't have to pay your teen an allowance for every chore he completes. Instead, some chores should be part of being a responsible family member.

How Much Allowance to Give Your Teen

Token Economy System

A token economy system is a point system that allows your teen to earn points (or tokens) that can be exchanged for privileges. Create a list of chores you'd like your teen to complete, either daily chores, like cleaning up the kitchen, or weekly chores, like mowing the lawn. Assign a point value for each chore.

While a simple chore like clearing the table might only be worth 1 point, a bigger chore like cleaning the garage could be worth 10 points. Hang the list of chores and their assigned values in a prominent location. Create a reward menu as well. Rewards could be as simple as 30 minutes to play video games or they could be as big as going to an amusem*nt park. Assign a point value to each reward.

Then, let your teen earn points and leave it up to him to decide when to exchange those points for a reward. Perhaps he'll pick a small reward every day. Or maybe he'll save up his points for a bigger reward several months down the road. You don't have to let him earn expensive or extravagant rewards. Instead, you can make the rewards everyday privileges that he has anyway.

Chore Charts for Multiple Kids

Chore charts for multiple kids can become a little more complicated. You might find it's best to give everyone a separate chart with different rewards or consequences versus trying to put every child's name on the same chart.

This is especially true if you have big age differences between your children. A 5-year-old and a 15-year-old should have very different expectations and chores.

But, if you have teens who can handle a similar workload, a combined chart may work well. You might make a monthly chart that assigns one child to clean the kitchen while the other one cleans the bathroom. Then, the following month, they swap responsibilities.You might find it also works to swap out the chores every other day or once a week. Just make sure one teen doesn't end up doing twice as much if the other one isn't doing his chores.

Create a Chore Contract for Your Teen

Make Your Teen Responsible

The point of a chore chart should be to reduce the arguments over chores. It should also give your teen a little more freedom to choose when to do his chores.

Resist the urge to nag him. Instead, make his privileges contingent on getting his work done. If he doesn't do the work, don't give him his privileges. Hopefully, he'll learn to behave more responsibly next time.

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FAQs

What is a good punishment for not doing chores? ›

You should choose consequences directly related to the unacceptable behavior. For example, if your child skips a chore have her do an extra chore; don't take away TV. If she leaves a mess, have her clean two rooms; don't ground her for a week.

Why does my teenager not want to do anything? ›

During adolescence, teens often deal with challenges like peer pressure, bullying, school-related stress, etc. These issues can affect teens' motivation by causing them to feel overwhelmed or lost. Parenting teens is hard, and you're not alone if you feel like you've tried everything to motivate your teenager.

How can I be more consistent with chores? ›

Creating a chore schedule is a game-changer for managing household chores efficiently. A well-planned schedule ensures that tasks are evenly distributed, preventing them from piling up and becoming overwhelming. It also helps in maintaining a consistent routine, making it easier to keep your home in order.

What are the 3 R's of discipline? ›

I shared with you the 7 Foundational Principles of Tried-and-True Discipline in a previous blog post. Now let's talk about a practical tool for disciplining your child. I call it the three “R”s of discipline: remove, reflect and reconnect.

What are good punishments for 13 year olds? ›

Effective methods of discipline can include leaving room for natural consequences, instilling logical consequences, implementing reparations, and creating learning opportunities. Counterproductive methods may include corporal punishment, taking away healthy outlets, and eliminating all privileges.

What is lazy child syndrome? ›

Lazy child syndrome affects kids who find it hard to motivate themselves. This could be because they lack interest in what they're doing, have low self-esteem, or simply feel apathetic.

How to motivate an unmotivated child? ›

And there are a number of things parents can do to help motivate kids to try harder.
  1. Get involved. ...
  2. Use reinforcement. ...
  3. Reward effort rather than outcome. ...
  4. Help them see the big picture. ...
  5. Let them make mistakes. ...
  6. Get outside help. ...
  7. Make the teacher your ally. ...
  8. Get support for yourself.
Aug 25, 2023

How do you simplify daily chores? ›

Guiding Rule: Simplify, Simplify
  1. An uncluttered room, with only furniture on the floor, is extremely easy to clean. ...
  2. Fewer clothes means you have fewer things to put away and to wash. ...
  3. Fewer things on your kitchen counter means cleaning the counter is a snap – just give it a quick wipe with a washcloth and you're done.

How do I stop avoiding chores? ›

We spoke to a cleaning expert and life coach to find out more.
  1. Work out the causes of your procrastination. ...
  2. Tackle 'chore creep' ...
  3. Prioritise, don't postpone. ...
  4. Make a schedule for chores, and keep to it. ...
  5. Set a timer: then ready, steady, go. ...
  6. Aim for progression, not perfection. ...
  7. Share the workload, fairly.
Jan 24, 2024

How do I stop being lazy and do chores? ›

Set a small goal such as adding the 10 minute clean up reminder to your daily morning, afternoon or evening routine and pick a task you usually put off. Do it for just then ten minutes. As you feel better about your home and yourself for accomplishing this you'll be motivated to do more.

How do you punish a child when nothing works? ›

Use a time-out procedure.

Calmly remove the out-of-control child to a boring but safe location. Briefly tell the child why the offending behavior is not acceptable and that he must sit, doing nothing, in the time-out location until you say he may leave.

What are some good punishments? ›

With that in mind, here are some examples of common positive punishments:
  • Scolding. Being reprimanded or lectured is something many children would like to avoid.
  • Hand slapping or grabbing. This may instinctively happen in the moment. ...
  • Writing. This method is often used in school. ...
  • Chores. ...
  • Rules.
Feb 25, 2020

Is it illegal to force your child to do chores? ›

Tweens, pre-teens, and barely-teens (13-year-olds) can perform their duties around the house without you having to worry about a swat team busting in the side door like the Kool-Aid Man. There's no law against kids doing basic chores and household functions at any age.

What is a good punishment for not doing homework? ›

Additional Study Time: If your child is not completing schoolwork or their grades are suffering, additional study time can be an effective positive punishment.

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