How to Invest in the Life of a Younger Friend (2024)

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I love mentoring! I love one-on-one discipleship. Truly, I love being trained and taught, and equipped formally. And, I love being the one doing the training and equipping. How to Invest in the Life of a Younger Friend However, there are seasons when life just feels really busy, too busy to take the time to mentor someone else. So, how do we “do” discipleship as busy women and men? What does it look like for that person who cannot take part in regular discipleship meetings? Can you still make disciples on the run and in the middle of the chaos of life? Can you still invest in the lives of others when your life is crazy and unpredictable? YES!! Can you still invest in the lives of others when your life is crazy and unpredictable? YES!! Click To Tweet I want to give you four (4) words you can use that come from the life of Jesus about how to invest in the life of a younger friend. These 4 words will give you the HEART of your discipleship plan – the heart of your way of investing in the lives of others. As you are going. Luke 9:57-58 “As they were going along the road,” someone said to Him (Jesus), “I will follow You wherever You go.” And Jesus said to him, “The foxes have holes and the birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.” Mark 8:27-29 “Jesus went out, along with His disciples, to the villages of Caesarea Philippi;” and on the way He questioned His disciples, saying to them, “Who do people say that I am?” They told Him, saying, “John the Baptist; and others say Elijah; but others, one of the prophets.” And He continued by questioning them, “But who do you say that I am?” Peter answered and said to Him, “You are the Christ.” Luke 24:13-24 The Road to Emmaus “That same day two of them were walking to the village of Emmaus,about seven miles out of Jerusalem. They were deep inconversation, going over all these things that had happened. In the middle of their talk and questions, Jesus came up and walkedalong with them. But they were not able to recognize who he was.” Our Challenge – “AS YOU ARE GOING” – we can invest in the lives of others and make disciples. As you are going… In the regular course and days of your life, you can train, teach, and instruct others to love Jesus. As you are going... In the regular course and days of your life, you can train, teach, and instruct others to love Jesus. Click To Tweet How do you do this?? My favorite way to mentor and disciple is to use regular, everyday moments. Jesus was the ultimate example of this technique. As they were walking outside and a flock of birds flew by, He would say, “Look at the birds of the air.” He used things like the fig tree, the mountains, the wheat and the tares, and the lost coin. Jesus taught, trained, and mentored others using regular, everyday stuff. My favorite way to mentor and disciple is to use regular, everyday moments. Click To Tweet What does it look like to use “Regular, Every Day Moments” and to share the love of Christ as you are going? While walking with one of my neighbors, we had the chance to talk about our faiths. She was raised Muslim, and I asked her to tell me about her core beliefs. Then, she invited me to tell her about my faith. This neighbor was never able to grasp the concept of “GRACE,” but she was quite intrigued by it. I had the opportunity to invest in this young mom’s life while we made laps around the neighborhood. Where do these moments usually happen–to invest in the life of a younger friend? Moments to mentor, train, and equip others can happen anywhere! Moments to mentor, train, and equip others can happen anywhere! Click To Tweet When do they usually happen?? Any time of day or night, moments to influence and impact can occur. Honestly, they usually happen at the most unusual times and in the most unusual ways. For example, we’ve had some of the best discussions about life and important matters with our kids in the car. We’ve answered questions like: How long do they last–these moments to invest in the life of a younger friend? They can last several minutes… I’ve had the chance to offer a good word or a little instruction to many women through email or onFacebook Messenger. Often, they send me a note asking what to do about their marriage, one of their children, or some other issue. For just a moment, I have the chance to pour into their lives. Or, they can last several years… For about two years, I walked in the morning with my precious younger friend Kelly.We just talked, laughed, and shared about our lives. Eventually, Kelly and I both moved away from that neighborhood. But, I got to see her at an event recently. She stopped me and told me, “I was a baby Christian when we met. You were the one who really mentored me and taught me how to grow in the Lord.” Now, she is on staff at a church! I never knew. I just thought we were walking and talking. To effectively impact the men or women God has placed in your life, can I suggest a few steps of daily preparation? Click To Tweet How do you know what to say–to invest in the life of a younger friend? To effectively impact the men or women God has placed in your life, can I suggest a few steps of daily preparation? 1} Get Clean Empty yourself. Confess, forsake, give up, let go of yoursin. Daily get your heart right with the Lord. 1 John 1:9 – “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 2} Get your tank filled Fill up on Jesus – ask Him to fill you up so you have something to pour out. (Fill My Cup, Lord, Hymn) Romans 15:13 “Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” 3} Get in the Word Fill up on the Word. Open the Word and take in truth for the day. 2 Timothy 2:15 – “Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” 4}Get out there! Be ready and willing. Be open and available. Then, be on the lookout. Hang your shingle – put it out for business! Let the sign of your life read– “The light is on. This Christian is Spirit-filled. I’m open to talking to you today!” Does this kind of discipleship work–to invest in the life of a younger friend? Yes! It’s been my joy to “do life” alongside many amazing friends. I’ve had the chance to invest in, pray with, teach, train, and befriend these women. Honestly, it’s been one of the greatest privileges in my life. I have a number of favorites! Among them are three young friends who are all named “Jennifer.” They are all ministry wives that God has sent into my life. Each is married to a pastor or a missionary husband, and each of these women deeply loves Jesus, their children, their husbands, and serving the Lord. I’ve walked alongside each of these young women. I’ve spent time with them, I’ve prayed for them, I’ve given them great books to read, I’ve laughed with them, and I’ve cried with them. Primarily, I’ve just loved them, and God has taken care of everything else. And, He will do the same for you! Ask God to use you as you are going, as you are walking along. Click To Tweet My CHALLENGE TO YOU is simple: GET CLEAN. GET FILLED UP WITH JESUS. Then, GET INTO THE WORD. GET OUT THERE AND BE READY! Ask God to use you as you are going, as you are walking along. He can and He will. But, be warned… if you do this, you better put your seatbelt on. It’s going tobe a wild ride! You can catch all of the friendship articles by linking to thembelow: How to Make Better Friends – Week One And How to Enjoy Mutually Encouraging Friendships – Week Three How to Invest in the Life of a Younger Friend – Week Four How to Expand Your Friendship Horizons– Week Five Were you encouraged by what you read? Then, would you share this article with a friend, co-worker, or family member? Or, maybe you can send it to a friend or family member? FAQs

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I love mentoring!

I love one-on-one discipleship.

Truly, I love being trained and taught, and equipped formally.

And, I love being the one doing the training and equipping.

How to Invest in the Life of a Younger Friend

However, there are seasons when life just feels really busy, too busy to take the time to mentor someone else.

**So, how do we “do” discipleship as busy women and men?**

What does it look like for that person who cannot take part in regular discipleship meetings?
Can you still make disciples on the run and in the middle of the chaos of life?
Can you still invest in the lives of others when your life is crazy and unpredictable? YES!!

Can you still invest in the lives of others when your life is crazy and unpredictable? YES!! Click To Tweet

I want to give you four (4) words you can use that come from the life of Jesus about how to invest in the life of a younger friend.

These 4 words will give you the HEART of your discipleship plan – the heart of your way of investing in the lives of others. As you are going.

Luke 9:57-58

“As they were going along the road,” someone said to Him (Jesus), “I will follow You wherever You go.”

And Jesus said to him, “The foxes have holes and the birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.”

Mark 8:27-29

“Jesus went out, along with His disciples, to the villages of Caesarea Philippi;” and on the way He questioned His disciples, saying to them, “Who do people say that I am?”

They told Him, saying, “John the Baptist; and others say Elijah; but others, one of the prophets.”

And He continued by questioning them, “But who do you say that I am?” Peter answered and said to Him, “You are the Christ.”

Luke 24:13-24 The Road to Emmaus

“*That same day two of them were walking to the village of Emmaus,about seven miles out of Jerusalem.***

*They were deep inconversation, going over all these things that had happened.***

In the middle of their talk and questions, Jesus came up and walkedalong with them. But they were not able to recognize who he was.”

Our Challenge **– “AS YOU ARE GOING” – we can invest in the lives of others and make disciples.**

As you are going… In the regular course and days of your life, you can train, teach, and instruct others to love Jesus.

As you are going... In the regular course and days of your life, you can train, teach, and instruct others to love Jesus. Click To Tweet

How do you do this??

My favorite way to mentor and disciple is to use regular, everyday moments.

Jesus was the ultimate example of this technique. As they were walking outside and a flock of birds flew by, He would say, “Look at the birds of the air.”

He used things like the fig tree, the mountains, the wheat and the tares, and the lost coin. Jesus taught, trained, and mentored others using regular, everyday stuff.

My favorite way to mentor and disciple is to use regular, everyday moments. Click To Tweet

What does it look like to use “Regular, Every Day Moments” and to share the love of Christ as you are going?

While walking with one of my neighbors, we had the chance to talk about our faiths. She was raised Muslim, and I asked her to tell me about her core beliefs. Then, she invited me to tell her about my faith.

This neighbor was never able to grasp the concept of “GRACE,” but she was quite intrigued by it.

I had the opportunity to invest in this young mom’s life while we made laps around the neighborhood.

Where do these moments usually happen–to invest in the life of a younger friend?

Moments to mentor, train, and equip others can happen anywhere!

At Work – you might have a great opportunity to share with a co-worker.
At Home – with your kids.
In your Neighborhood – while watering the yard or walking the dog.
At Church – I’ve had many great conversations in the hallway or even in the women’s restroom.
Or, at Exercise class – you can talk to a younger woman while walking on the treadmill next to hers.
At the Airport.
Even at Wal-Mart.

Moments to mentor, train, and equip others can happen anywhere! Click To Tweet

When do they usually happen??

Any time of day or night, moments to influence and impact can occur. Honestly, they usually happen at the most unusual times and in the most unusual ways.

For example, we’ve had some of the best discussions about life and important matters with our kids in the car.

We’ve answered questions like:

What about alcohol?
What about tattoos?
And, what about…?

How long do they last–these moments to invest in the life of a younger friend?

They can last several minutes…

I’ve had the chance to offer a good word or a little instruction to many women through email or onFacebook Messenger.

Often, they send me a note asking what to do about their marriage, one of their children, or some other issue. For just a moment, I have the chance to pour into their lives.

Or, they can last several years…

For about two years, I walked in the morning with my precious younger friend Kelly.We just talked, laughed, and shared about our lives.

Eventually, Kelly and I both moved away from that neighborhood. But, I got to see her at an event recently.

**She stopped me and told me, “I was a baby Christian when we met. You were the one who really mentored me and taught me how to grow in the Lord.” Now, she is on staff at a church!**

I never knew.

I just thought we were walking and talking.

To effectively impact the men or women God has placed in your life, can I suggest a few steps of daily preparation? Click To Tweet

How do you know what to say–to invest in the life of a younger friend?

To effectively impact the men or women God has placed in your life, can I suggest a few steps of daily preparation?

1} Get Clean

Empty yourself. Confess, forsake, give up, let go of yoursin.

Daily get your heart right with the Lord.

1 John 1:9 – “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

2} Get your tank filled

Fill up on Jesus – ask Him to fill you up so you have something to pour out.

Like the woman at the well, I was seeking
For things that could not satisfy.
And then I heard my Savior speaking—
“Draw from My well that never shall run dry.”

(Fill My Cup, Lord, Hymn)

Romans 15:13

“Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

3} Get in the Word

Fill up on the Word. Open the Word and take in truth for the day.

2 Timothy 2:15 – “Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”

4}Get out there!

Be ready and willing. Be open and available. Then, be on the lookout.

Hang your shingle – put it out for business!

Let the sign of your life read– “The light is on. This Christian is Spirit-filled. I’m open to talking to you today!”

Does this kind of discipleship work–to invest in the life of a younger friend?

Yes!

It’s been my joy to “do life” alongside many amazing friends.

I’ve had the chance to invest in, pray with, teach, train, and befriend these women. Honestly, it’s been one of the greatest privileges in my life.

I have a number of favorites! Among them are three young friends who are all named “Jennifer.”

They are all ministry wives that God has sent into my life. Each is married to a pastor or a missionary husband, and each of these women deeply loves Jesus, their children, their husbands, and serving the Lord.

I’ve walked alongside each of these young women. I’ve spent time with them, I’ve prayed for them, I’ve given them great books to read, I’ve laughed with them, and I’ve cried with them.

Primarily, I’ve just loved them, and God has taken care of everything else.

And, He will do the same for you!

Ask God to use you as you are going, as you are walking along. Click To Tweet

My CHALLENGE TO YOU is simple:

GET CLEAN.
GET FILLED UP WITH JESUS.
Then, GET INTO THE WORD.
GET OUT THERE AND BE READY!

Ask God to use you as you are going, as you are walking along.

He can and He will.

But, be warned… if you do this, you better put your seatbelt on.

It’s going tobe a wild ride!

You can catch all of the friendship articles by linking to thembelow:

How to Make Better Friends – Week One

And How to Enjoy Mutually Encouraging Friendships – Week Three

How to Invest in the Life of a Younger Friend – Week Four

How to Expand Your Friendship Horizons– Week Five

Were you encouraged by what you read?

Then, would you share this article with a friend, co-worker, or family member?

Or, maybe you can send it to a friend or family member?

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How to Invest in the Life of a Younger Friend (2024)

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How do you invest in a friendship? ›

Invest in your friends by asking good questions, being a good listener, and caring about the things going on in their lives.

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What are the benefits of having younger friends? ›

Having younger friends can help broaden and freshen your perspective. Learning about new ideas, new music, technology, and more can really keep you young and happy. Boosts Energy: Whether it is toddler grandkids, teens, or someone in middle age, the young are generally active and engaged.

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Is it okay to be friends with someone younger than you? ›

"Befriending somebody who's younger and helping them walk through a life stage or experience that you have already gone through can foster closeness and that can feel really good," says therapist and friendship expert Miriam Kirmayer.

How do you emotionally invest in someone? ›

Become emotionally invested in a relationship by sharing your feelings openly and showing curiosity about your partner's ideas and interests. Display healthy emotional investment by respecting your partner's boundaries and ensuring they feel accepted and valued.

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What is the golden rule of friendship? ›

KEEP GIVE AND TAKE EQUAL. It's a friendship rule that reminds you never to take more than you give. Almost everyone has had at least one friend in the past who was continually wanting their time and resources but never reciprocated. That one-sided friendship is something that nobody needs.

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How does age matter in friendship? ›

Younger pals can be a reminder of past selves; older friends can offer a glimpse into the future. Having fun with someone decades older or younger than you can take off the pressure to “act one's age,” whatever that means. We should all make more friends of different generations.

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At what age do you make your closest friends? ›

According to “The Friendship Report,” a global study commissioned by Snapchat in 2019, the average age at which we meet our best friends is 21—a stage when we're not only bonding over formative new experiences such as first love and first heartbreak, but also growing more discerning about whom we befriend.

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Is age gap a problem in friendship? ›

“Benefits of age-gap friendships include learning from one another's experiences, developing empathy for people of different ages and possibly (though I'm not sure of the evidence for this) having a different perspective on life as a result of knowing someone older/younger well. American clinical psychologist Dr.

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Do friends matter less as you get older? ›

We do better at every age if we have friends. We are healthier and we live longer than those with few friends. If we have friends, we will have a lower risk of depression and anxiety.

How to stay in touch with younger generations? ›

MIX UP YOUR MODE! While Boomers tend to rely on face-to-face and phone conversations to send and receive messages, most folks in younger generations prefer instant communication via e-mail and text. Be comfortable using all these formats, and more importantly, know your audience.

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How do you add value to a friendship? ›

While it's natural to seek support and comfort from our friends during challenging times, it's equally important to reciprocate and offer support when they need it. Take the time to listen attentively, empathize with their struggles, and offer genuine assistance without expecting anything in return.

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How do you know if a friendship is worth investing in? ›

If your friend isn't there for you when you need them, then they are most likely using you for their own benefit. Another sign that you are investing more in a friendship is if you are the one doing most of the calling, texting and asking to hang out together.

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How do you treasure a friendship? ›

If you want to treasure your friends, create the space to listen to them and draw them out. Listen attentively – not to advance your own agenda – but to hear the beauty of another's heart. One practical way to be empathic is to send a handwritten note or card to a friend who needs a little encouragement.

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