The heart is a stubborn element where love is concerned especially when that love goes south. Letting go becomes a headache; Forgetting that special person seems impossible.
But do you have to torture yourself by holding on to a love that no longer seems sustainable?
Here are tips you can apply to help you move on.
Take time and forget
Heartbreak acceptance takes time and is not something to forget overnight. Talking to someone close may help ease that load off your back.
On average, it takes about eighteen months to completely get over someone. For others, it may take less or longer depending on the depth of the heartbreak.
If takes longer to heal, therapy could be the solution. The phrase time is a healer, though difficult to accept, is true.
Detox
Take time off social media platforms. This will be a bold and hard decision but worth it as there’s always that temptation to keep checking status updates whenever you feel low. Stop stalking someone; Unfollow them so that if you reactivate your account later you don’t get to see them.
A further and better step to take is to delete all your lover’s photos from all your gadgets.
Let go
All items and presents that may remind you of this person should be given away to avoid memories. This is important even if the items are expensive and you don’t feel like giving them out.
Avoid all places that you frequented together while your relationship lasted. All the good times you shared should be forgotten. Keep reminding yourself why it had to end. Don’t entertain the possibility of ever wanting to get back together.
Being grateful.
Be grateful about ending it. Groom yourself, and surround yourself with people who cherish you. It is time to create other memories and happy times with others. It is also time to eat healthily and exercise often. Do not neglect your body.
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Forgive
Forgive them but don’t forget. This will help you in future relationships. Learn where it went wrong so that it never recurs. Forgiveness is divine and will take away your pain. Forgive yourself as well.
Move on
You can try to date again if you think you have found the right person but don’t do it hastily. Once bitten twice shy. Being independent will help you to start on a clean slate.
Keep a diary
It helps to keep track of your journey to forget someone you broke up with. Write down your emotions. What you wrote about the first month will be different eighteen months down the road.
Engage yourself.
Don’t stay idle for extended periods of time. If you engage your mind with extra activities, you have less time to think of your ex. Go for new things and challenges like art, music, or even church activities. If need be, take lessons.
Travel to new places you’ve never visited before. Remember, this is a new you.
Final thoughts
It is better to break off with someone who doesn’t deserve you rather than clinging there in the hope that things will improve.
Avoid regrets, love yourself first, and hope that true love will find you soon enough.
