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What...are you trying to say?
The popularity of text messaging has meant learning a whole new way of communicating. You don't only have to think about what to say, but also how to type it out. Let's talk about using those three dots...
Punctuation plays a very big role in text conversations. The way you end a sentence (or capitalize it) can say a lot about how you're feeling. A hard period at the end---while grammatically correct---is often interpreted as "I'm upset" or "this is serious." I think that's why some people turn to the classic ellipses(...).
Related: Why Is Texting in no caps So Trendy?
Are you okay...
Ellipsis are an informal type of punctuation, which lends itself well to texting's informal nature. Some people seem to like ellipses as a sort of middle ground between a period and an exclamation point.It's often used in the middle of a sentence to represent trailing off in thought or taking a long pause for dramatic effect.
At the end of a sentence, it can have a different feeling. Again, it can be used for trailing off on a thought. But ending a sentence with ellipses can also have a sort of ominous or passive-aggressive feel to it. Here are a couple of examples.
"Okay...I'll be there soon..."
"Are you sure about that..."
"We need to talk..."
"Sounds good..."
"That's great..."
I don't know about you, but when I read those messages, I don't have a good feeling about any of them. I'm really not sure which emotion is being conveyed. Now let's use those exact same phrases with different punctuation (or no punctuation).
"Okay, I'll be there soon"
"Are you sure about that?"
"We need to talk."
"Sounds good."
"That's great!"
You may not realize it, but the change in punctuation makes these phrases come across more clearly. "Okay, I'll be there soon" is plain and informative. "Okay! I'll be there soon!" is excited. "Okay...I'll be there soon..." sounds like the person isn't looking forward to seeing you. Think of a long pause and a sigh.
Similarly, "That's great!" shows excitement. A simple "That's great" without punctuation is a calm show of support. But "That's great..." trails off in a way that could come across as disingenuous. Andslapping a period on the end can give it a petty "good for you" attitude.
What...are you trying to say?
This is why elipses can come across so ominously. You have to go out of your way to add those extra periods, and the recipient may think you did it for a reason. You're leaving the interpretation up to them to decide. "Are they not happy to see me or is this just how they text...?"
Commas, periods, and exclamation points have relatively clear meanings in the texting world. Ellipses are an enigma, and that can be a scary thing to receive. If you want to end a message informally, I think simply not using any punctuation is the way to go. Texting doesn't have to look like an English report.
If this all sounds very complicated---you're right! Language is often very imprecise. You might not pick up on the emotion someone is trying to convey even in spoken conversations. We're all just trying our best to be understood.
Related: Yes, Emoji Have Multiple Meanings Too
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FAQs
At the end of a sentence, it can have a different feeling. Again, it can be used for trailing off on a thought. But ending a sentence with ellipses can also have a sort of ominous or passive-aggressive feel to it.
Why do people hate ellipses? ›
Ellipses, by contrast, can completely change the tone and meaning of what you write. And people who misuse them often don't realise what they're doing.
Why do old people put ellipses at the end of texts? ›
He said that when boomers were charged by text messagesor SMS, they developed the habit of utilising many ellipses. Boomers used ellipsesto divide their ideas apart so they could communicate more in a single text.
What does the ellipse mean in texting? ›
An ellipsis is a common response to a bad joke or pun.
It's like in real life when someone makes a bad joke and you just look at them blankly. The joke was too bad to even merit a proper response. It's not a negative reaction, just one that says, “There you go again, you goofball.”
Why does Gen Z hate ellipses? ›
On the other hand, Gen-Z, raised on the immediacy of text messages and social media, favours brevity and clarity. To them, the ellipsis can feel outdated and misinterpreted. Social media platforms like X, TikTok and Reddit have become battlegrounds for this punctuation war.
Why are ellipses offensive? ›
At the end of a sentence, it can have a different feeling. Again, it can be used for trailing off on a thought. But ending a sentence with ellipses can also have a sort of ominous or passive-aggressive feel to it.
Is an ellipsis rude? ›
Written communication is subject to interpretation. In a professional environment, you always want your message to be as clear as possible so everyone will get the message you want. Using ellipsis can be interpreted different ways and there is a high risk one will consider this rude.
Why do boomers type with ellipses? ›
In order to say more in just one text, boomers would use “…” to separate their thoughts. Whereas Gen Z does not have any such limitation and therefore they freely shoot multiple texts, rarely punctuating their thoughts with ellipses.
Is ellipsis flirty? ›
The ellipsis, a row of three dots, stands for an omitted section of text. But much can be conveyed by omission. It asks the receiver of the message to fill in the text, and in that way is very coy and potentially flirty.
What does it mean when someone ends a text with an ellipsis? ›
Ellipsis points are periods in groups of usually three, or sometimes four. They signal either that something has been omitted from quoted text, or that a speaker or writer has paused or trailed off in speech or thought. That's the basics. Now we'll dig in to how they're used.
People ending their sentences in ellipses are the true passive aggressive ones..... | Hacker News.
What does it mean when a guy uses ellipses? ›
He's flirting.
Ellipses are an effective way to let the person you're speaking with fill in the blank. If a guy who's chatting you up follows a text like “I've been thinking about you…” with those 3 tiny dots, he's inviting you to use your imagination to figure out what exactly he's thinking about you.
What is the hidden meaning of ellipsis? ›
So it means "and so forth" or "and other things". Other use is the suspension of a part of a text, or a paragraph, or a phrase or a part of a word because it is obvious, or unnecessary, or implied. For instance, sometimes the ellipsis is used to avoid the complete use of expletives.
Why do people use ellipses when typing? ›
It's great for omitting words and phrases and indicating pauses and unfinished thoughts.
When not to use ellipses? ›
Take care to preserve the original meaning of the quote. When removing words at the beginning or end of a quote, you do not need to provide an ellipsis--only use when omitting words from the middle of a quoted sentence.
What is the psychology behind an ellipsis? ›
Aposiopesis is the use of an ellipsis to trail off into silence—for example: "But I thought he was..." When placed at the end of a sentence, an ellipsis may be used to suggest melancholy or longing.
Do ellipses have a negative connotation? ›
When used in casual conversation, ellipses connote hesitation, confusion, and apathy — they're the most passive-aggressive of all the punctuation marks.
Are ellipses flirty? ›
The ellipsis, a row of three dots, stands for an omitted section of text. But much can be conveyed by omission. It asks the receiver of the message to fill in the text, and in that way is very coy and potentially flirty.