If these signs from YourTango seem familiar, your partner may be ready to move on.
When your relationship gets stale, it can be tricky to know if you're at risk of breaking up. While every relationship goes through ups and downs, certain signs can show you if your guy or gal is ready to hit the road.
If you see these signs in your relationship, don't panic. Instead, proceed with caution, focus on reconnecting, and work on the areas of your relationship that need a little bit of extra love and care. After all, ignorance isn't always bliss.
1. They avoid you.
Breakups are tough, and some people find that actually telling their partner they want to call it quits is too hard. Instead, they choose the path of avoidance rather than being direct and honest about their feelings.
If your partner is suddenly canceling all your plans or changing the conversation whenever a serious topic comes up, they may want out but not know how to tell you. If you notice this happening, it's time to bring this behavior to their attention.
2. They've stopped talking about a future with you.
You and your partner used to spend hours planning your lives together. From marriage and kids to moving in together and worldly vacations, there was no shortage of future plans. Suddenly these talks are no longer. It's true that the future can be scary, but if your partner is shunning these conversations, then it may be time to ask why.
3. They've stopped making an effort.
Relationships require effort from both partners. Whether this means planning date nights or making up after an argument, putting effort into a relationship is how people show they care for each other.
If your partner has stopped trying, it might be a sign that they're thinking about leaving. Missing anniversaries or blowing off other special occasions could be their way of letting you know they're ready to move on.
4. They put their friends first.
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While it's important for couples to have space, spending every moment of their free time with others is definitely a red flag. To find out where your partner stands, ask to join them sometime. If an invite never comes, then you know to consider the reality of the situation.
5. You're no longer intimate with each other.
If the intimacy in your relationship has been replaced with friendly banter or playful high fives, that's a clear sign that something is wrong. In order for a relationship to last, it's important to keep the spark alive. Your partner could be waiting for the flame to slowly burn out.
6. They're being secretive.
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The partner who's having a secret affair or hiding feelings is a common movie trope. You know how the story goes. If you notice your significant other sneakily checking their phone, quickly logging out of Facebook, going out with strange friends or not sharing their plans, look at the bigger picture of what those moves might mean.
7. They threaten to leave you.
Light-hearted banter is one thing, but if your partner threatens to leave you or jokes about breaking up, it could be on their mind. And if they handle disagreements with threats about ending the relationship, they're probably not fully invested in the first place.
8. They pick fights with you.
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Every couple argues from time to time, but it's a problem if small debates frequently turn into blowouts. Sure, your fights may just be a phase or an outlet for some unrelated issue, but if there's no logical reason behind them, your partner could be creating drama as an excuse to leave you.
9. They cut back on their communication.
You call and they don't answer. You text and it goes unreplied. If your partner is cutting back your daily communication, then you may want to wonder why. When a person is unsure of a relationship, it's common to slowly reduce the amount of contact they have with their partner.
10. You feel unappreciated.
If you don't remember the last time you heard a simple “Thank you” or “You're the best,” you might start to wonder if your partner appreciates you. When a person is halfway out the door, it's normal for them to justify their actions by denying how great their partner actually is. In other words, to feel better about themselves, they'll stop recognizing your efforts and love.
Originally written by Brad Browning, YourTango
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